Sex Positions That May Help Reduce Pain

Sex should not routinely hurt. If a position causes discomfort, changing the angle, depth or amount of pressure can help, but persistent pain deserves medical attention rather than being treated as something to endure.

Choose positions with more control

Positions that let the person receiving penetration control depth and pace can be easier to adjust. Being on top is one example because movement can be slowed or stopped immediately.

Side-by-side positions

Spooning and other side-lying positions can reduce strain on the back, hips and knees. They also tend to encourage slower, shallower movement.

Use pillows for support

A pillow under the hips, lower back or knees can change the angle and reduce muscle tension. Small adjustments often matter more than trying complicated positions.

Slow down and use lubrication

Arousal and lubrication can make penetration more comfortable. If natural lubrication is not enough, a compatible personal lubricant may reduce friction.

Do not force a stretch or position that your body cannot comfortably maintain. Stop if you feel sharp, burning or persistent pain. Pain can have many causes, including dryness, infection, pelvic-floor conditions and endometriosis, so recurring painful sex should be discussed with a healthcare professional.